Here's a typical conversation between myself and a client who is a tired, burnt out, drained mom:
Me: So tell me about some of the things you're struggling with.
Client: My life feels like it's falling apart! I'm angry and resentful. I yell at my kids all the time. My husband can't do anything right. Everyone needs something from me ALL. THE. TIME. My schedule consists of nagging my kids to brush their teeth, packing lunches, cleaning the house, making dinner, running each kid to a million different activities and by the time I actually have some time to myself, I'm EXHAUSTED. Then I have to get up and do it all over the next day!
Me: So tell me about the things you do for self-care. How do you take care of YOU?
Client: *Staring at me like a deer caught in headlights* I don't even know what that looks like. I don't have time or money to waste on myself. It feels selfish!
We've all been here haven't we moms? We have a list of a million things to accomplish but we never put OURSELVES on that list of things to take care of! Even if we do make it on the list (and sorry, grocery shopping by yourself is NOT self-care!), we put ourselves at the very bottom of the list.
Why moms? Why do we do this? Where did we get the idea that we have to be all things to all people? What insecurity is lurking within you telling you that you need to sacrifice your own needs and wants in order to meet everyone else's first? Let's start taking better care of ourselves, so that we can take better care of those around us. But, how do we practically do this?
There are many ways to practice self-care. Some might cost money and others you can do for free. Some you can do by yourself, and some you can do with a friend. Get creative! If self-care doesn't come naturally to you, you may need to create margin in your life and actually schedule in activities that are just for YOU.
Here is a list of things you can do to care for your physical, emotional, spiritual, and mental well-being!