Affairs, Betrayal and Infidelity
If you think back to your wedding day, as you stood before all of your family and friends and made a vow to your soon-to-be husband or wife, I'm sure you never believed that one day your world would be turned upside down by an affair. You couldn't imagine that you would ever betray your spouse and never dared to believe that your spouse could betray you. But here you are. Reeling from the pain of one of the worst kinds of betrayals. A shattered marriage, broken vows, and doubts about how you could ever move on from the devastation of your partner's affair. Whether it's been going on for years or months, the pain is the same. Whether it was a physical or an emotional affair, the pain is the same. Whether you've been married one year or thirty years, the pain is the same.
So what's next? Divorce? Separation? Stay together for the kids' sake? Live the rest of your life in an unhappy marriage? Maybe. But I have more hope than that for you. And I have seen MANY couples who have chosen to end their first marriage, and begin a second marriage....together. These couples are able to turn a crisis into an opportunity.
Is this hard work? YES. Can this take 1-2 years to recover from? YES. Will there be ups and downs? YES. Will it be difficult to trust again? YES.
Can we heal from this? YES. Can we learn to trust again? YES. Can couples counseling help with this? YES.
Melanie Johnson, LMFT specializes in helping couples recover from an affair by processing with them what lead up to the affair, how the betrayal has affected each person, and giving them tools to start recovering from the affair. It's important to remember that recovery is necessary even if the marriage ends in divorce.
Schedule a session today and start your recovery journey. We have counselors ready to see you at our Crystal Lake, Huntley, and DeKalb locations!
So what's next? Divorce? Separation? Stay together for the kids' sake? Live the rest of your life in an unhappy marriage? Maybe. But I have more hope than that for you. And I have seen MANY couples who have chosen to end their first marriage, and begin a second marriage....together. These couples are able to turn a crisis into an opportunity.
Is this hard work? YES. Can this take 1-2 years to recover from? YES. Will there be ups and downs? YES. Will it be difficult to trust again? YES.
Can we heal from this? YES. Can we learn to trust again? YES. Can couples counseling help with this? YES.
Melanie Johnson, LMFT specializes in helping couples recover from an affair by processing with them what lead up to the affair, how the betrayal has affected each person, and giving them tools to start recovering from the affair. It's important to remember that recovery is necessary even if the marriage ends in divorce.
Schedule a session today and start your recovery journey. We have counselors ready to see you at our Crystal Lake, Huntley, and DeKalb locations!
Watch this fantastic video by Esther Perel, a leading researcher on affairs and infidelity.